Today I'd like to share a simple strategy to help us overcome comparision-itis and stuck-ness.
Sometimes we can make the easy assumption that someone else's life is less challenging that our own. Even while we are highly functioning we can just get tripped up on the one little 'problem area' that gets us every time. It might be work, romantic relationships, friendships, finances. But, as Regina Brett says:
“If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.”
Too often it's easier to get caught up in what isn't going that well and forgetting what is going right. It has also been proven by neuroscientists that it is also easier for us to recall negative judgements, feedback, experiences and events than it is to remember the positive one.
So if our default setting is to process negative experiences more strongly, and focus on the negatives in our lives, how to we reset and gain a better perspective?
Sometimes we can make the easy assumption that someone else's life is less challenging that our own. Even while we are highly functioning we can just get tripped up on the one little 'problem area' that gets us every time. It might be work, romantic relationships, friendships, finances. But, as Regina Brett says:
“If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.”
Too often it's easier to get caught up in what isn't going that well and forgetting what is going right. It has also been proven by neuroscientists that it is also easier for us to recall negative judgements, feedback, experiences and events than it is to remember the positive one.
So if our default setting is to process negative experiences more strongly, and focus on the negatives in our lives, how to we reset and gain a better perspective?
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