So I've have a pretty relaxing couple of days, but not in my usual way of kicking back at the beach, or meditating or having a deep insightful conversation with a trusted friend.
As unexpected as this is this week's blog post has been inspired by very wise words of advice about the issue of rescuing from Patti Stanger, the Millionnaire Matchmaker, ha! (Sometimes self-care is indulging in something just a little bit lighter than usual!)
While I love getting out in nature, and deeply consider the meaning of life, at other times I just love to indulge the some trashy TV as a temporary escape. My latest discovering is the US series of Millionnaire Matchmaker. Patti, the professional matchmaker may be very Barbi, very LA and extremely outspoken, I'm quite intrigued by her ability to cut to the chase and actually get to the source of the problem.
This particular episode about was about a widowed Dad who surrounded himself with his family as a buffer from his feelings, from the prospect and potential of love, and as a distraction from his own needs and wants as an individual.
Often people who are empathetic, accepting and open minded can fall into a trap of allowing others to come into the lives and taking over. It true, it's a great way of keeping busy and preoccupied, but at the end of the day, it prevents us from living our own dreams and desires by distracting from the true purpose of lives - to be happy and live the life that we want to lead, on our own, without the input of others.
While he might be an extreme example (he had his mother, his sister and her family all living under the same roof), his situation prompted me to ask myself the following questions:
What is that I'm hiding from in all my busy-ness?
Once we stop for a moment, the answers can be deep, scary and thought provoking. On this occassion I realised that I was running to and from all different opportunities in an attempt to hide from who I really am, and to stop myself from showing my true colours. So it all came down to acceptance; acceptance that I am enough right now, I also realised that I supported myself enough to stick to one path, I would be much more focussed on being me, and much less scattered by succumbing to the perceived wants and needs of other people. Ouch! That's a big one hey.
And now I ask you:
Is there something that I am avoiding or hiding from by not accepting myself as I am right now?
When you feel ready to keep on asking some deep questions to reveal your true self, feel free to sign up to my free 30 minute intro session or sign up for my 6 week Crisis to Connection course. For all the details click here and to sign up contact me on [email protected]
As unexpected as this is this week's blog post has been inspired by very wise words of advice about the issue of rescuing from Patti Stanger, the Millionnaire Matchmaker, ha! (Sometimes self-care is indulging in something just a little bit lighter than usual!)
While I love getting out in nature, and deeply consider the meaning of life, at other times I just love to indulge the some trashy TV as a temporary escape. My latest discovering is the US series of Millionnaire Matchmaker. Patti, the professional matchmaker may be very Barbi, very LA and extremely outspoken, I'm quite intrigued by her ability to cut to the chase and actually get to the source of the problem.
This particular episode about was about a widowed Dad who surrounded himself with his family as a buffer from his feelings, from the prospect and potential of love, and as a distraction from his own needs and wants as an individual.
Often people who are empathetic, accepting and open minded can fall into a trap of allowing others to come into the lives and taking over. It true, it's a great way of keeping busy and preoccupied, but at the end of the day, it prevents us from living our own dreams and desires by distracting from the true purpose of lives - to be happy and live the life that we want to lead, on our own, without the input of others.
While he might be an extreme example (he had his mother, his sister and her family all living under the same roof), his situation prompted me to ask myself the following questions:
What is that I'm hiding from in all my busy-ness?
Once we stop for a moment, the answers can be deep, scary and thought provoking. On this occassion I realised that I was running to and from all different opportunities in an attempt to hide from who I really am, and to stop myself from showing my true colours. So it all came down to acceptance; acceptance that I am enough right now, I also realised that I supported myself enough to stick to one path, I would be much more focussed on being me, and much less scattered by succumbing to the perceived wants and needs of other people. Ouch! That's a big one hey.
And now I ask you:
Is there something that I am avoiding or hiding from by not accepting myself as I am right now?
When you feel ready to keep on asking some deep questions to reveal your true self, feel free to sign up to my free 30 minute intro session or sign up for my 6 week Crisis to Connection course. For all the details click here and to sign up contact me on [email protected]
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